Destroying the Bully Within

 

Knockout the Negativity

There’s a phrase we have heard before that states, “We are our own worst enemy.”  We say negative things to ourselves that beats down our true inner beauty.  Our own self worth is kicked in the gut and dragged down to the ground by the bully that lives inside us.  That bully needs to be stopped and needs to be destroyed.

The negative thoughts we think about constantly become our beliefs. When we believe something we behave in a certain way.  Our behaviors show the world who we are.  When we show others who we truly are we shine.  However, our shine can only glisten if we believe we are beautiful.

If you think you are ugly inside you will behave in ugly ways, such as gossiping about others, cheating and lying to yourself and everyone you meet, and showing contempt towards everyone you believe is prettier than you, smarter than you, better than you, etc.

Conversely, if you feel beautiful inside you will behave in beautiful ways, such as showing compassion towards others, openly sharing and caring for others, and giving love to everyone you meet with a smile, a friendly handshake, a warm hug.  True beauty really is skin deep.

Learn to ignore that nasty bully within if you want others to know the real you.   You are not a number on a scale.  You are not a mistake.  You are not dumb.  You are not less important than anyone else.  You are not an age.  You are not limited.

You need to believe that you are beautiful, you are intelligent, you are brave, you are strong, you are talented, you are kind, and you are love.  You can do anything and be anything as long as you believe that you can achieve what you deserve.

“Ha! Easier said than done,” you say.  Try for one week to say something positive about yourself everyday.  Look in the mirror and say a positive affirmation about yourself, such as  I am smart, I can do this, I am the most creative person I know, etc.  It sounds silly but the more you do it the more you will begin to believe in yourself.

Another trick to try is to find your strengths and reflect on past achievements.  What are you good at?  What have you done?  What have you overcome or survived through?  When we focus on our strengths we recognize our talents and we believe in that talent.  When we reflect on our past achievements we realize how far we’ve come and we begin to believe we can go further.

If that doesn’t work then ask others for their opinions.  Find those that you trust and just ask them.  Get them to tell you what they like about you and why they are friends with you.  You may be suprised who admires you and who looks up to you.  When we realize we have gained respect from others we begin to understand that we need to respect ourselves.

Respect yourself, believe in yourself and you will shine.  That bully that rears its ugly head with all the negative thoughts and judgments needs to be destroyed because it’s kicking the living beauty out of you.  Kick that inner bully in the face by telling yourself how wonderful you are on a daily basis because you are wonderful.  Stomp on that bully inside by focusing on your strengths and past accomplishments because you are a survivor.  Destroy that negative monster by finding your closest admirers to remind yourself that you deserve to be respected and you are valuable.

Good luck and may you always win when you battle the bully within.

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Mahatma Ghandi once said, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.” This statement spurred the popular saying, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” www.bethechangebutterfly.com was created to help instill that change within you. Stop by for a visit to Be a part of the Change.
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