The need to change isn’t always apparent. We get stuck in the routine of our lives so much that we don’t realize that we need to change. At times, we do realize we need to change but don’t know how to do it. That’s when we are hit with something big; a huge negative that is. Those bad things that happen to us is life’s way of telling us to wake up and do something different. Some of us brave the wake up call and truly become wide awake.
A colleague of mine was let go from a company due to “limited budgetary costs” as the powers at be claimed. In reality it was politics in motion but however crass the reasoning it was the wake up call my colleague needed to create a change for the better. Afterwards this colleague had doors open and new opportunities given that would not have appeared without the budgetary (political) elimination.
I have also survived the negative catalyst for change. By age 30 I lost both of my parents and by older brother. I first lost my brother to diabetes and a sudden brain aneurysm. Seven years later my mother lost her battle to cancer and a year and half after my father fell with a sudden heart attack. It would seem that deep depression would set in after losing over half of my immediate family but instead I threw myself into collegiate studies in pursuit of two master degrees. This may have been away for me to avoid the negative reality of losing my family but in the end I earned two master degrees, gained a better appreciation for myself and my level of resilience, and eventually learned to accept the loss of my loved ones.
I will always want my loved ones back with me by my side so I could talk and hug them again. However, I realize without having those losses happen to me I would not be the person I am today. I appreciate life and I cherish everyone I encounter along my journey. I experience every moment as if it may be my last. I reflect on what I could do to better myself. The negative stuff still happens from time to time but I know I will and can survive.
Next time something bad happens to you recognize it as the catalyst for change that may be needed. Ask yourself, “Is this my wake up call?” It may seem awful at first and even all the while the bad is happening but it may be necessary. Once you realize that you have the control to make yourself better, stronger, and wiser you will survive and ultimately you will change. Because sometimes bad things happen to good people and good people need to change.
Good luck in your life journey and I hope that whatever negative comes your way it makes you change for the better.