The sailboat clips the waters at an even pace in spite of the choppiness of the rocking waves. The sailor adjusts his sails accordingly to give way for the winds that clamor against the boat. The sailor then brims a smile in the salty air knowing that it is the man who adjusts to life’s changing winds that best survives the coming storm.
When life gives you tornadoes you too can survive like the sailor and adjust your sails. It is when we adjust to change, rather than fight against it, that we prevail.
Remember when something you planned didn’t go accordingly but in the end it all turned out alright, maybe even for the better. It could’ve been a car breaking down but then finding out later there was a bad accident on the road you would’ve been on had the car not broken down. Perhaps it was a change in a hotel reservation that resulted in a free upgrade. Maybe it was a job loss and you eventually found a better, higher paying job. Whatever it was or is, life gets better in the end; so why fight it?
It’s human nature to want to control everything (myself included) and when life doesn’t go our way we tend to get mad, fight it, look for alternatives to go around it. Instead we should relax, breathe, and remember; this will soon pass. Because the reality of it all is that a year from now, a month from now, even a week from now it all won’t matter. Life will be moved onto something else.
Easier said than done, right? Perhaps reminding yourself that getting mad is not going to fix the car. Yelling out loud is not going to change whatever happened. Sometimes going against whatever change occurred makes things worse.
One time I came upon a traffic jam and took the next exit to avoid the roadblock on the highway. I ended up getting lost and I was even later for my appointment. If I had just trudged through the traffic jam on the highway I probably would’ve been only a few minutes late, instead of 45 minutes late.
Staying calm is the hard part when things go unexpected. Perhaps if we don’t set any expectations or expect things to change at a moments notice we can manage the change better and not get so upset. Don’t expect perfection either because truthfully, life isn’t perfect. Stuff happens and sudden changes makes life interesting. Expect chaos and when it happens it will be easier to deal with.
Breathing helps too. Focus on your breath, in and out, slowly to help yourself relax. This is a skill that needs much practice to master. The best time to practice is when you are happy about something. So when things do go a wry you are more capable of focusing on the breath, which will eventually calm you down. It’s a mind over matter trick that works.
Sometimes whaling out a hearty laugh over the sudden change helps. Laughter floods the brain with serotonin (the happy hormone) that makes us relax and feel better. If life throws you curve balls catch the fast pitches with laughter. It’s better to laugh than cry.
Accepting change is hard but if we fight it we make that change ten times worse. So adjust your sails when the winds pick up into a chaotic storm in life and you will find that sailing the sea of change is a breeze.